There are good days and bad days. It seems that the bad days came right after I had posted.
I was mourning for the marriage that I had actually wanted. To a very big extent, I am still mourning for the marriage I feel I could still make work.
Like you, I come from a small community. To make matters worse, XH, OW and I all work in the same profession. And people in the community don't know the whole story. XH doesn't look like a WH but I do look like a WW.
How do you feel when ppl come up to you and talk about your wife? Do they know your current situation?
The funny thing is I will feel more than just a bit if the XH marries the OW, and not so much, if he marries another woman. Perhaps I am vindictive.
That's why I say I am not quite there yet with the detachment.
Last edited by Grlonfr; 10/18/1505:19 AM.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
