OK, I just reread through Step 5- Experiment and Monitor results. I wrote four detailed goals. And surprised myself by realizing we are well on our way to achieving one of them. I would say we are 50% there. I had noticed it, but not really put it into context, and it is an encouraging sign. The second goal we are also making progress with, maybe 10-20% of the way there. The other two, are related to each other, in regards that it would be a shift in our dynamic- with H taking a more assertive approach and initiating some things. I am so tired of being the leader in every facet of our lives, I would LOVE to see H step up and take some action and be decisive.
I think I am going to ask him for these two things in MC next week. I think I can ask him in a positive way, and frame it in a way that is respectful and actually good for H. If he isn't ready to respond, I can break it down into smaller steps and measure and experiment. Going to think on it and reread again tomorrow, see if a good night's sleep and some more thought will firm up my goals.
Today was a good day. Kept busy with kids, a little pre-homecoming dinner party with friends to see the kids off to the dance, some yard work, and some time reading DR and writing my goals. Also managed to squeeze in a movie with my boys. My mood was good, my kids are happy, I didn't call or text H and ignored the one text he sent me. He texted me "hi" about 4 hours ago. He can text me or call me if he wants to reach me. I am not hanging by the phone waiting on a "hi". But I am happy for the "hi"- him initiating contact is a good thing.
