S19 was here today. He said W called him and asked him to get together. He said he was busy and couldn't talk then (he hasn't been interested in seeing or talking to her).
He asked me what he should tell her. I asked him if that meant he wasn't going to see her right now. He said yes (this kills me...he always hugged and 'loved on' his mama). I asked if he minded telling me why. He said he didn't want to talk about the situation or hear her reasons if that's what she was going to talk about, he was angry at her and hurt. I asked why don't you tell her in advance you don't want to talk about that but still will see her? He said he didn't want to see her. Again, breaks my heart.
I said in that case you should be honest, loving, kind, and respectful because she is your mom. You could say something like, "I don't want to right now and need some time. I will let you know."
I have no idea if that was a good way to handle this or not. Or if I didn't do/say something I should've.
