Avanti, are you talking about relationship goals? Like I want to be greeted when H comes home from work? And I want more sex- like 1x a week? Or are we talking about "me" goals- like workout 5x per week? I did set goals with not reacting emotionally and that is kind of part R goal and part personal behavior, and I did very well with that. It took a while though, but its been several weeks since I reacted emotionally (except for one incident where H woke me up at 2:30 am on our anniversary to tell me I ruined his mother's life, but my reaction was limited in duration and intensity.)
I will definitely reread DR. Tonight. When I read it 3+ months ago I was in a different place, so it would be good to go back, will probably seem quite different. Thank you for pushing me Avanti. I need some forward momentum, I am stuck.
