It's common ... "You want the D too". , "see we are better off this way" ...."you are happier now" ...... All those types of statements. For me it was a great chance for a nicely rehearsed truth dart. I very calm would look her in the eyes and tell her " no this is never what I wanted, I do not want a D but I respect your choice and your decision, I would do many things differently if I could, that being said I will continue to focus on making myself better and I will be ok regardless." End of story end of conversation ... I would tell her I had some things to take care of and leave. This did open up dialogue as she typically wanted to know what I would have done differently ... Which gave me a chance to validate and address her valid complaints ... Not the BS ones just the valid ones
When you detach and GAL... Get your feet back underneath you and control the interactions to be calm (on your end) you will start noticing some change in the dynamics. As sandi posted in that other thread... The LBHs fear and reactions to sway the WW ends up speeding up her running from him
