Have a good trip Mutatio. What a beautiful weekend to be going to Boston! Its' probably too late now as you are most likely already traveling, but I was going to suggest an audio book for the car ride if its a long trip- maybe something positive or funny to fill the silence.
I also struggle with the thought that the silence might be reinforcing H's perception that there is nothing left between us. But that can apply to any aspect of DB. If I don't pursue, will he think its over. If I do pursue, will he be turned off. If I GAL will he think I don't need him and then its over. If I don't GAL will he think its more of the same. Its hard to know what to think, so I am sticking with DB, because obviously if my instincts were right I wouldn't be in this situation to start with.
By saying what you've said, it makes me wonder, do you have a plan and goals? I suspect not and if so, have you decided when you are going to do the work to create them so that you can start taking back control over your life? This might appear to be a 2x4, and it is but it's applied with the very best of intentions, as you are so kind to so many. :-)
The fundamentals of DB'ing start with goals and plans, it not possible to say you are truly DB'ing until you've got them in place and they are fully tested according to the text in the DR book.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
