Otw, I am sorry. You are a good father. I have nothing to say that can help you, just want to show my support. I wish my H had the same compassion and love for our children that you have for yours.
I really appreciate the support. I have bitten my tongue at least a hundred times tonight. She is trying to make the kids son cited about her new house. I took the lead on the talk to make it easier on her, took the high road and never said this is what mommy wants, and now she is showing pictures and talking about new rooms to them. Of course they will be excited about that and old dad that is going to work to death to keep their same house and rooms looks like old news. I want to blow my top. But I won't.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Sorry to hear your having such a rough night, that is a very difficult situation. I'm not sure I would have agreed and told the kids this is what I wanted but it's done and over so no big deal. You don't need to make things easier for her just don't intentionally make it harder by trying to punish her. She will do that enough to herself by her own actions so don't shield her from herself.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
I will have another one on one talk with my D7 tomorrow. She opens up to me and will ask questions. Tonight was just too much emotion. She will understand tomorrow what is reLly happening. I am thinking about telling wife that I understand she needs to make The transition easy for the kids and get them excited and not sad but I took a big high road and some Consideration regarding my situation with them would be nice as well. I M Thinking I need to set this as a boundary. If I am going to have the kids not look at her badly she should talk me up as well and not just focus on herself.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Wow a night filled with bad dreams. All of three of them with one central theme that w has been lying to me the entire time since BD. Now I wake up with my head spinning and probably a few days away from receiving the first draft of the separation agreement. I have been contemplating hiring someone to find out if there is an affair talking place as it will affect the support payments I will have to make to her. If I look at everything as a big picture the writing is on the wall.
I also need to decide how I handle how she is talking so great about her new house to the kids and getting them excited. I know it is to avoid the sad part but it makes me become the forgotten parent. Especially when I really took the high road with the conversation to the kids.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
So I have not said anything. She will be leaving the campground early and me and the kids are staying. I feel I took the talk with the kids worse than anyone. I have found myself looking at her and can't believe what is happening. Two more weeks and she will be gone. I know it will be better for me but I am so sad for my family. It has been crushed. Just having a tough time right now.
I am going to become very busy these next two weeks.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
