Sorry to hear your having such a rough night, that is a very difficult situation. I'm not sure I would have agreed and told the kids this is what I wanted but it's done and over so no big deal. You don't need to make things easier for her just don't intentionally make it harder by trying to punish her. She will do that enough to herself by her own actions so don't shield her from herself.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
