Ancaire, you are amazing. Truly amazing. How you have figured out DB, detachment, 180s, all so quickly is truly beyond me. If anyone stands a chance for reconciliation it is you.

And I am so glad for your Dr! Praying you will get a clean bill of health.

I have also been struggling with H's dragging my name through the mud. I like how you clarify things and simplify them. If/when H decides to check back in, all he does need to say is that things are more complicated than he let on. That's easy to say and all that would be required. That gives me hope, I was getting stuck thinking that one could be insurmountable.

Have you ever thought of becoming a counselor or a mentor or life coach? Your grasp of complicated issues is so quick and laser sharp- you really have a gift. Coupled with compassion and a great sense of humor.