I have read and done much of what is listed above and its been a great help. However one night I lost control when she was trying to leave and that may have cost the relationship. Tried to keep her home. That is why I am finally posting because I realize doing what I want to do doesn't work. Doing what other people find is effective is what works. I am a sucker and want her to stay in the bed near me, I want to wear the wedding ring to show I am still going to try and avoid questions at work etc... But in the past doing what I want to do has been all bad. Which is why I look to others for help now.
Last night we engaged in foreplay I made her initiate everything. But then she asked me if I love her and I said yes, then she got mad and said then why didn't you love me right or something and dropped off me.
I work, work out, eat, try to sleep, keep myself up enough to notice a lot more complements from my W and other woman. And its all working great. Being the conceded psycho she is at this stage in life she showed all this stuff to the OM and that was probably part of what made him wonder what he was doing. He was of course convinced he was saving some poor woman from a negligent cheating husband, but after seeing a lot more and hearing a lot more he realized he was just a home wrecker. But some of these questions seem a lot more nuanced than I am getting strait answers on. Maybe I should interpret that answer as I should keep the ring on because taking it off would be trying to get a response from the W.
Also just a little tip that might want to be integrated into the above post, another way to keep yourself safe is to use in private browsing sessions to do all your research. Its a lot easier on you than clearing your cookies / history and I think all web browser no support such a feature.
