confused newbie 5

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Thornton posted this:
The LBS is also in a fog, E. The pain you are experiencing really changes the way you view things.

Something interesting often happens when a WAS wants to reconcile with the LBS. The LBS suddenly feels VERY angry and looks at the WAS differently, almost like they have lost respect for them and they aren't as attractive anymore. It's because the fog lifts and we realize our WAS isn't perfect like we had thought the whole time they were gone

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I agree that lbs are in a fog. I never would allow someone to do this to me, yet here I am. I would love to have the old (younger in age) W back that was happy and fun and wanted to share life with me. This one, my STBX if things progress, is not who I want to be with. So I guess we are both in fogs, hers selfish and uncaring. Mine is full of denial and too much hope and optimism. I keep praying.

I do realize now that as Sandi says, it will take a lot longer than I want. I see no signs of progress yet, really. I keep trying to pick up the small things as a sign, but then I screwed up and put too much stock in it.

Yuck