It sounds like all 3 of our H' s have lost their minds. I spoke last Sat with my H and asked him if he any respect left for me and kids to please NOT have OW up to our family cottage (that's where kids walked in on them doing it) and guess who is up there together right now. I am losing my mind. We ARE MARRIED!! He is doing whatever he wants and not caring about the fall out.
Yes A's do thrive in secrecy and fantasy. Once it's exposed to real life and have very little change to survive the long term. They sacrificed so much for it so it's only logical they would want to commit quickly and move forward so they can have the life they always wanted with the person they think is perfect for them. Real life will most likely rip it to shreds at some point even if it looks like it's gong good for them. Anything built on deception is destined to fail.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Deception and hatred. The OW absolutely hates me. And I have never said a single word to her but I am what is standing in the way of her happiness. She said to my H that it is not fair that I will get the house and money (she clearly doesn't have a clue about H finances - the is NO money) and they will have to live in the slums. I would like to know why she thinks she is entitled to anything that H and I have worked for together for the last 30 years?????!
How on earth did you come by that little snippet of information? Did H tell you that?
Is she 12? That is such a stupid comment, but OW are not known for being very good people. There's something really wrong with a person who is willing to have a R with a married person. They have got to be so damaged, to be able to carry on in such a manner.
She more than likely has had input from H, who's downplayed your role in EVERYTHING...she thinks he's supported you all this time, and now you get to clean him out. Just listening to my H's rants these days, I'm pretty sure I'm on the right track with this observation. He is such a victim of my cruelty!
Seriously, though - it makes me sick to my stomach that he's rewritten our lives together in such a way that he now sees me as such a rotten human being. I hope the MC has some ideas on how to repair his broken perception. I won't be able to go on like this for months and months.
I keep laughing at OW's comment about living in the slums. Don't they both belong there?
They have all lost their minds, and they all deserve each other. Since BD, I have learned that most women are so kind, supportive, and strong. But then there are the OW.
I don't get it, I don't get what is going on in their minds. But it doesn't matter, because we are the strong ones, the more we let them take up space in our minds the more it will bring us down. And then they have won.
But it doesn't matter, because we are the strong ones, the more we let them take up space in our minds the more it will bring us down. And then they have won.
Post of the day! Very well said and so true.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Thanks Ancaire, photoka and Evil_E. yes I must remember WE are the strong ones! It was nice to come home today to read your replies. S17 just got in fender bender this afternoon with my car. Actually more than a fender he backed into a BMW. My car has no damage but BMW has average size dent but because it's a BMW estimate for repair is 2000. And of course they insist on using the dealer cause its a new vehicle and they want a rental while it is being fixed.
Do I call H and ask for help???? H still claiming he has no money but he is going out tonight to bar to watch the baseball game
Hey A. No H didn't tell me. What he doesn't know is that our phones are synced ( I didn't do it it just happened when my son downloaded the new operating system - only started a couple weeks ago) Anyway...... I am seeing all kinds of interesting tidbits. And yes based on what I am seeing/reading she is about as mature as a teenager - a young teenager.
She hates me cause I am interfering with how they are living their lives. WHAT???? If anything I have give him the freedom to DO what he is doing.
It is my new favorite show to tune into - but it won't last cause they are getting an apartment so once they are together I will not see text communication
I would definitely ask H to pay. Send him the bill and then watch the texts that fly back and forth and enjoy the show. H is going to look less and less appealing to OW when she realizes his finances are already committed.
Feeling like ish right now. Having to ask my mother to help pay for car repair (son hit a BMW while driving my car- stupid tiny dent is going to cost $2000) long story short we can't go through insurance - rates would go crazy- anyway - the people son hit want the money this weekend. I sent H a text saying the burden of handling (not just this) everything is too great -i have had enough - i continued by saying that he has made a fool out of me (by lying about this OW to my face) and he just continues going out and having fun while i take care of everything. I finished with he can pay for car repair!
I know I probably shouldn't have sent the text. But I really have had enough. It's been 13 months and I am weeping in my kitchen while he is furniture shopping for apartment with OW
