6 months in the storm

[ep0215]

I am new to your sitch so am just catching up and therefore not qualified to answer your question regarding the email. It is certain that others who have been alongside you for longer with give good insight soon. I can be quite blunt and direct, if that annoys or upsets you please feel free to tell me to STFU.

Please be blunt, I need it

The reason for piping up is that having spent some time looking through your threads you seem have spent a lot of time dealing with events or triggers that have come your way with no apparent plan or goals except right at the beginning snd being very direct, they were a bit half-hearted probably because you weren't really sure where to start.

You are right. My son is a huge trigger for me. H was never around when we were a family and it angers me that H is now wanting to be father of the year but always at my expense. One of my goals would be to start showing some compassion and be proud that he wants to be father of the year now. That is a wonderful thing for my son. I just don't really understand the goal setting thing so is that too vague of a goal? How do I keep myself in check to accomplish that? This is where I get hung up on the goals.

Having spent some time lurking around other threads one thing is clear, those who are making progress are those who have clear goals and a plan. There are none (that I've found) who are really making any progress where goals and plans are absent.

Those who have a plan, then spend more time consulting it than responding to their feelings, which makes their lives that much easier.

Again you are right on. I was riding the waves of emotion for the last few months trying to figure out what I want and what was happening to my life. I am still not sure if any of my goals include a R still. The door is closed, I think, but not locked.

None of what I've said is easy, it does take time and effort but you are up for that right?

Yes, for me to be a better person, yes.

Will you help me write some goals and help me achieve them. I would like this thread to focus on that. I am ready. I feel much more in control then I did 6 months ago, let's do this.