I am new to your sitch so am just catching up and therefore not qualified to answer your question regarding the email. It is certain that others who have been alongside you for longer with give good insight soon. I can be quite blunt and direct, if that annoys or upsets you please feel free to tell me to STFU.
You are certainly going through a very tough time and have had some very useful conversations with many who I have a lot of respect for.
The reason for piping up is that having spent some time looking through your threads you seem have spent a lot of time dealing with events or triggers that have come your way with no apparent plan or goals except right at the beginning snd being very direct, they were a bit half-hearted probably because you weren't really sure where to start.
To stop or reduce the amount of vacillation you are experiencing maybe it's time to determine some goals then formulate a plan to reach them.
Having spent some time lurking around other threads one thing is clear, those who are making progress are those who have clear goals and a plan. There are none (that I've found) who are really making any progress where goals and plans are absent.
Those who have a plan, then spend more time consulting it than responding to their feelings, which makes their lives that much easier.
None of what I've said is easy, it does take time and effort but you are up for that right?
You seem to be a very energetic and committed woman and maybe it's time to use that enthusiasm and focus to really set yourself off on a track that you feel more comfortable with and more importantly have a greater degree of control over.
Of course, it could be that I've missed the posts that deal with this key area of DB'ing and if so, I humbly apologise in advance and will go back to lurking.
Avanti
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
