"Mine actually said she wasn't currently cheating on me because our M had been over for years, and she "emotionally divorced" me a long time ago." My W shared the same message and more recently made a twisted comment to defend her action; is it an A if the MR does not exist?
I don't recall a story where the WW deemed the M as being dead or that she was emotionally D her H before she dropped the bomb or he discovered her A. Would be interesting to see the response if a LBH would say, "W, I did not receive any notification of an emotional divorcement or of a deceased marriage. I would assume the same liberties that you apparently have pronounced as being permissible while legally married, would apply equally to both parties of the deceased M. I really need to take a note that in my next M, I can decide to emotionally divorce my W or deem the M as dead, and she doesn't even have to know it. How clever"!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
