“Oh yeah I recall how hard and painful that was” and I think at times it can keep a person stuck … so in a way I have DB’d the DB forum if that makes any sense.
Makes perfect sense and I think we all do this at some point. For me I see certain threads that are similar to how attached and codependent I was. I try to help but I know how difficult it's really going to be for them to cut that attachment out of their life and as I'm still working on it 10 months later so it's still tender to me also. In those similiar threads where they got together in high school and no other serious relationships I think it would almost be easier to skin ourselves alive with a butter knife while swimming in the ocean than break that attachment.
The opposite side is reading a thread such as yours that's so far ahead and see those piecing difficulties and it really makes you understand why so many of these situations don't work out. Just like the LBS you were talking about that left later on, we have this small chance the WAS will come back but we don't realize that's only 1/2 the equatiom for it really working out long term. Still, hope is there and alive but seeing it until the end isn't for the faint of heart. Admire you for staying the course.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
