Yesterday was another test of my mettle. XH picked kid up from school without informing me. I was in a state of panic when I went to pick kid up and kid was not there. The teacher informed me that XH had picked kid up.

The old me would have thrown a hissy fit. However, after I got over the panic, I realised that XH wouldn't mean kid any harm. What I did was to call the principal and reminded her again that there must be no unauthorised pick ups from school.


Texted the X and asked if kid was with him, and reminded him very civilly that he had to tell me when he was going to pick kid up and keep to the schedule as I had a great fright when I couldn't find kid. No apologies from X but he agreed to inform me like he was supposed to.

I think I must have another conversation about not using kid as the messenger. But that would have to wait another day. One battle at a time.

I was even able to face the X civilly when he dropped kid off later in the evening. Small steps...

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.