Jpeg, I gave mine space, too. I was supposed to stop pursuing and work on me. During that brief period is when he met his "tru luv"...
I know he would have done it in any case...I think that's what all this was about. He told me he wanted to date other people. I just didn't realize he meant instantaneously. Jerk.
On the other hand, I think we can surmise from recent events, his choice to abandon his wife and family didn't work out quite the way he had planned. His kids are disgusted with his behavior. His wife doesn't trust him or look up to him anymore.
I am so very glad, though, that early on I told him I didn't want that old marriage back either. I told him our choices were D or MC, but we could not go back to that. Then I refused to help him with his D, since I thought it was the wrong thing to do. I was fine setting up temporary spousal support though, remember? That's when reality began to hit him.
I think I'm on the upside of this thing...but I am terrified to believe it. All the wise folks here say time and patience is needed in any case, so I'll just make it through one day at a time, and see what happens.
You didn't do anything wrong. These WS's have their own rulebook - I think they have to pass some sort of insanity test before they get their copy. Clearly, their minds have fled.
