thanks for the encouragement. however I'm really nervous that she sees that my parents came to visit and they are avoiding her, so when her parents come to visit she's going to keep them away from me, and now that she acknowledged that I haven't asked about the family dinners, she's going to not mention it again unless I do, and the whole "maximum distance" thing is just going to push us apart.
the other tact is to schedule the family dinners, and be friends with her, and not be so aloof, but still don't pursue. It just seems safer to maintain a connection that I can build on, instead of playing a game of cat and mouse. This isn't high school.
