You're assuming it was the "honey" that did it. What if it was the "I heard you"?
Is she sensitive to perceived criticism? In my opinion, either way, her response was an overreaction. It's such a shame you can't discuss it. That entire scenario irritates me. Sorry. But really! Close down and shut off because you heard something you didn't like? Is she five?
You have got to be the world's most patient man, Mutatio. I am in awe of how you quietly and supportively stand, day after day.