Wednesdays are set up the way they are because of his work schedule. He doesn't get off work until 7:00 pm. Which is why I pick him up from school and get to see him until 7:00 so that he doesn't go more than 3 days without Mom. I can't trade the hours because he works from 4pm to 2am every day. We set it up for me to have that dinner time on Wednesdays so he doesn't go 3 days without seeing Mom.
I understand where you are coming from Sunny, I really do. I do believe that I do have to enforce the rules and set this boundary. H is used to me rolling over and letting him do whatever he wanted because it is what is easiest on him. This is me being EP 2.0, no more door mat. I would like the respect of being considered when our child is concerned.
OK, then if Wednesdays are your days, and you want to enforce that, why is your email about a day's notice on schedule changes? Wednesday is not his day. Tell him so. I get that you are asking for a day's notice if he wants to change the schedule, in this case, take your time, but really, that's not the issue. The issue is that he believes it's OK to hijack your time on a regular basis. That's the behavior you need to put a stop to. Explain to him that Wednesday afternoons are your day, please do not make plans for S during that time. Period. In this case, it doesn't really matter if he gives you notice that he wants to hijack or not, if your answer is no, then it's no the day before and the day of. Right? Do you see where I'm coming from here?
