Still riding the waves

[mleigh4]

You guys have given me great advice! Thank you so much.

Kml I love the idea of approaching the discussion on splitting holidays. It is certainly time, I believe S will be ok with this and I believe I am strong enough to do it and actually still enjoy my day.

Cali you read my mind. I clearly remember you putting your foot down about the holidays, I just couldn't remember the details.

Sotto, I will throw in your advice too. I know H will ask why we can't spend them all together. He may even throw in some guilt about doing that to S. I will be ready to respond that since we are separated, holidays together don't work well for me.

I feel a huge relief, I will let it all sink in...it's unfortunate, but seems the best thing to do under the circumstances.