Quote: Then I said, "Frankly I've been looking at it as a barometer of our relationship. If you wear it you are happy...if you don't, you aren't."
Don't have a lot of time today, but one of my biggest pre-DBing foibles which continues to haunt me to this day is my use of those same exact words!! ... and on top of that I used my ring where it 24/7 to make my statement ... and boy did it turn into an ugly scene when I woke up one morning to notice the ring wasn't on my finger and I literally tore the bedroom apart looking for it!
I learned the hard way NEVER refer to wearing of the rings as a barometer!!!!! ... after all, what is a barometer used for? ... to measure PRESSURE ... and that is exactly what our S's feel when we approach it that way! Boy I just can't emphasize this enough.
Even now, its a thorn in my side. Since the beginning of the year, she has not worn her rings, even on special occasions ... and yes, I can't help but to thinkof it as a barometer ... and even tho I tried to mention it as nonchalantly as possible a couple of weeks later, she still replied with a tone of apprehension when she said its because her fingers are swollen. (which by the way have now been swollen for nearly three whole months!!!) ... anyway I been letting it lie since, know I pretty much back myself in a corner on this one. For the last two weekends, I have done a 180. On Friday nite before bed, I took off my ring to use hand lotion and have left it off all day Saturday. My intent is to make it seem like wearing the ring is not such as big deal as I made it out to be. I do know she has noticed it both times altho she has made mention of it yet.
... but PnB, where you are at, there may be times where you may inadvertantly pick at a scab over the old hurt which bring about a brief period of pain. So long as you don't continue to pick at it, it will scab over again ... and don't do like I did and pull at the STICHES!
I think last nite also shows you that so long as continue with the positives the healing process to keep on without too much scarring..
Oh gotta go ... someone just set off the sprinkler system ...
... and on top of that I used my ring where it 24/7 to make my statement ... and boy did it turn into an ugly scene when I woke up one morning to notice the ring wasn't on my finger and I literally tore the bedroom apart looking for it! 
... and even tho I tried to mention it as nonchalantly as possible a couple of weeks later, she still replied with a tone of apprehension when she said its because her fingers are swollen. (which by the way have now been swollen for nearly three whole months!!!) ... anyway I been letting it lie since, know I pretty much back myself in a corner on this one. For the last two weekends, I have done a 180. On Friday nite before bed, I took off my ring to use hand lotion and have left it off all day Saturday. My intent is to make it seem like wearing the ring is not such as big deal as I made it out to be. I do know she has noticed it both times altho she has made mention of it yet.
