Try looking at it from another angle, he's confessing, He's telling you she's gone for good and is nowhere near. Many would kill for a message like that. Yes it's outside the MC room, yes he's broken a rule you'd agreed on but this, on the face of it, should be encouraging news. Your glass is half full Ancaire, try making yourself see it that way as much as possible.
There's going to be gut wrenching stuff, some is already out, but it's history and is not going to change, so prepare for it but see it in the wider context of starting a new R, with a clean slate, no secrets. It's a far better staging platform than lots of unknowns potentially eating away at you, building resentment...
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?