Tinydoc's first post, 5 months in.

[TDball]

I was reading about passive aggressive husbands last night, and while I oppose diagnosing ones spouse, it did capture our interactions quite perfectly. He was always "forgetting", or doing things after I had already started, or using avoidance to deal with his problems, A theme that came up was how it created overwhelming anger in the other spouse, who then felt crazy for being so angry over something that seemed so inconsequential. Meanwhile the passive aggressive spouse could then justify his feelings of hostility by turning to the wife and saying "why are you always so angry?"

I feel like we had the same conversation so many times, and he would agree to meet my needs, and then wouldn't do it. It really wore me down. I tried to approach the issue so many ways, or figure out ways to do it myself, but I felt like I could never make my needs heard. Over time it did make me feel crazy, and hopeless, and angry, it felt good to know I wasn't alone.

I mentioned my anger to my IC, but after talking about it,she thought it was hiding a lot of hurt. I agree.

GAL has been okay. I went to see my sister in law and nephew yesterday. I also started a divorce support meetup group and have 30 members! But now I need to actually plan an activity. And I may go on a date, I think I'm finally ready.