I would bet a years salary that she is stilling talking to EA. Even if she's spending time with you.
Does she take her phone with her to the bathroom? Does she put her phone face down when she lays it down on the table/nightstand? Is her phone on silent mode?
I think you need to stop doing stuff with her, E. I know that's counter intuitive to what you want to hear. I am codependent as well. I've read all the books, done the workshops, and even went to Codependent Anonymous meetings for a while.
You are dependent on her for your sense of self worth. She knows this and uses it to her advantage. Just like Sandi said, she gets to string you along while she figures out how to safely determine her next steps.
Start doing your own thing, E. Let her feel your absence.
