Did you always host parties? What was the dynamic? Who planned them? Who decided themes, decorations etc? IF your w always asked for stuff like this when you planned a party, maybe you can say you've already taken care of it, or you're going to someone else's party or whatever. But these mundane things, this is where the patterns are made. This is where the changes you make, the 180s can be felt. It's not all grand gestures.
