I can totally see how from his perspective I hit him a lot all at once. Completely unfair of me.
Perhaps I would have been better off just talking about the wall/window analogy and stopping there.
The way I handled it, he felt like he had to defend his friends from me. Not my goal at all.
As for the wedding ring, thank you for validating that my interpretation of it, is normal...but I think I screwed up by bringing it up. I should have just kept praising him when he wore it, and ignored when he didn't. Not taken it personally, like I was.
And if him turning away from me and getting all quiet was his signal that he was on overload..well, that's a valuable signal for me to know.
I'll pay more attention in the future...
Sage, you also said:
Anyway...I suspect that you'll have a good opportunity to have a "do over" with h....and I'm guessing that folks here can help with suggestions re. communication...my 2 cents would be to back off a bit for now and let h take the lead if you can?
Sounds like a good plan.
I'll cook him a nice dinner tonight and focus on being happy, perky, and upbeat.
So...Sage, If you don't mind..I'd love to hear your thoughts on the book.
