Thanks. Every day it becomes more clear to me how important detachment is...and while nothing about this is easy, it has generally gotten easier to maintain that detachment.
I used to think of it just a coping mechanism. Which I guess at some level it is. Now I'm starting to see it as something I owe myself as well as my W.
It seems to me that what detachment really boils down to is emotional maturity achieved by eliminating a kind of narcissistic behavior/attachment with my W that fails to respect the boundaries that should exist and produce a healthy relationship with each other where real love, etc. can not only exist but has the greatest possibility to flourish.
