I just finished "not just friends" too and can relate to how many emotions it stirred up. It sounds to me like you broke off a big chunk of stuff to speak with h about...touchy subject stuff...was the timing and build-up of it "right"?
You said he had just gotten home from work ...
And, I'm ASSuming that he didn't have the head's up that you were reading the book and wanted to talk about it. My h has told me that he feels at a disadvantage when I bring stuff up that I've clearly been thinking about that he has no advance warning of...
Then the talk of roomate
Then the talk of wedding ring and you interpretation
PIB...that's A LOT of topics, no? And all of them BIGGIES, right?
Sounds like h was giving you a strong sign that he was on overload...maybe it was because he felt overwhelmed by your disclosure that you were interpreting the wedding ring thing? (Not saying I wouldn't have interpreted it, too, but maybe all this was just overwhelming?)
Anyway...I suspect that you'll have a good opportunity to have a "do over" with h....and I'm guessing that folks here can help with suggestions re. communication...my 2 cents would be to back off a bit for now and let h take the lead if you can?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
