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I agree with kml... My BD was Sep13, that first thanksgiving I did solo, let her have S ... Christmas was the fake family sort (hated that) the following year all the ups and downs I wanted off the ride so we agreed he would go up north with her and her family ... I planned a nice dinner just he and I when they got back, she pushed and tried to invite me but I was done and ready to move on with wherever this thing was going to go... She ended up canceling plans and let me know they both would be local. I very easily could have invited her... Again... That rope was dropped, I arrived and picked S up and she continues to give me this look waiting for me to invite her along, even asked if I cooked a few of my signature dishes and how she missed them. I recall this so vividly ... But she chose her new life and I was clearly choosing mine.

I share this M because looking back, that day (she later in the year confessed she spent Thanksgivings alone on the beach) along with two others ... One day she was sick and begged for me to help her, bring her soup( I informed her OM would be filling these needs not me... Being fired and all) along with the Christmas I refused to go in halves on gifts nor did we spend it together ( she got S Christmas Eve and I took him Christmas Day) this drove home that I was cutting ties and I truly feel was a very traumatic event for her .... It did take 3-4 more months for her to approach me and tell me she wanted the M... And here almost a year later she is still processing through her issues ... No where near fully baked yet

I do think... And always have in your ditch that he will need to feel loss , not that you want to do it to get a response ... But seems like me you are tired of this ride you've been so patient about being on it in fact has you stuck along with him and I think you finally see that now. It's hard... But seems you've found your footing and strength to do what you need to do for yourself and your S


M: 48
W: 47
M16 T26-S8
BD Sept13