LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M (2)

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I am so thankful for people like you and Sandi on this board. I hope you know the difference you are making in my life

You're overthinking it, that means you are still very much attached. That will only make you crazy trying to decipher the "clues" and what she might or might not be doing.

Of course you're right. I do keep looking for clues. I've been praying God would show we signs of Him moving in her life towards our marriage to keep me encouraged.
As far as doing the dishes. I'm trying to figure out- if I do them is she manipulating me and I'm showing I'm still emotionally attached? Or if I don't do them am I being a jerk and giving her another reason to not come back.

She's in the fog right now. Everything about her will change. I've seen several instances where a WAS will start smoking or drinking, have affairs etc, and they were never like that in the past.

Thankfully she hasn't started smoking. She does drink every night at least 2 glasses of wine

Take all that energy that you use to try and decipher her and put it right back on you. What can you do to be a better gnicks?

The struggle is real! I've been trying. I've put so much energy into her over the last 8 years that it's hard to focus on me. I have made some leaps and bounds.
- Attending Church regularly
- start every morning in quiet time with God
- work out at the gym or in my garage 5x/ week
- GALing 2+ / week
- Joined 2 men's groups through my church
- Hired DB coach
- IC once per week

any other ideas? Or is this enough?