Have you written down goals that were suggested in the DR book? If so, it would seem to me that him asking to give you a massage and asking if you are mad would both be things that may have met your initial goals if you had written them down.
I don't know if I lost something somewhere but I am not sure about all the D talk and moving into separate houses. I agree with preparing worst case scenario in the future (i.e. renting) but separate housing seems extreme right now especially since there is not OW involved in this sitch.
Glad you read the Mars and Venous book. I think he says in the beginning that not all of the theory will apply. I would use what you think does apply. It is more to make you aware of things and the relationship dynamic. It gets you thinking anyway. You know your own sitch best so you will have to take some of it with a grain of salt.
Anyways, sounds like things are headed in the right direction for now.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
