This is where boundaries come in and reinforcing without emotion. The technique WH is using is called distraction, it takes an irrelevance such as you and your mum organising your pickup and makes an issue. It could be S4 was wearing blue shoes, anything. Ignoring it and not commenting is best, don't be deflected from your core goal- a smooth schedule.
When a schedules change you warn each other and the two of you deal with it between you no middle men to confuse. You each do as you like on your day. The introducing a middle man is also distraction and triangulation.
So, time to reinforce your boundary (repeating your statement is referred to as broken record) and also validate.
Thank you for our conversation, I hear you say you feel my text was business like. I would like to clarify my position, I want us to cooperate on the schedule, therefore if it is to change I will ask you a day in advance, please respect that I would like you to do the same. It's best if we do this directly with each other to avoid confusion. Each of us may organise our time with S4 and pickups on our day as suits us.
Have you thought about a shared online schedule? Several moms and dads here run one, you could offer that as well as a solution to direct contact.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 10/15/1512:35 PM.
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