I am starting to walk, won't be long before I jog. After that I will be running and running fast.

When I am out I no longer dwell on my situation but am in the moment.

I can move forward regardless of W dropping bomb. I have accepted that moving forward is the only option. Earlier I didn't see a way to really GAL without neglecting kids or helping with them.Now I need to really GAL so u have found a way.

Even when not out, I am busier at home.This gives us both space. I spend much less time on the couch in the evenings but I don't avoid it either.My W spends most evenings on couch. Plus she has dropped her one GAL activity because her friends who she used to go with no longer speak to her! Funnily I got to validate her feelings on this when she is practically doing same to me!

Thanks again Z. Good having you in my corner.
we have both been at this a while now though you longer.
we will be better happier men. Until then let's figure out what we can do about that rope.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together