Hi 4my, sorry not to have posted on your thread recently. I do read along though and it sounds like you are doing well. I liked the goals you posted and it is great to see some short term, practical ones that are mainly about you and your D.

The one thing that popped out at me from your update above is.....texting your ex to say Good Morning.....and that he replied for first time in a month.

It read to me that you are pursuing with texts like that and that he only occasionally responds. In DB terms, this is a dynamic that you may want to think about changing? What does change mean? Not initiating contact unless it is needed about the kids or another practical and business matter.

I think this comes back to the codependency theme, which you are doing some great work on. You want to maintain that link of contacting him and him responding. Just something to maybe explore further.

Anyway - good for you with all the positive work you are doing xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus