Sunny, I started posting way back in Dec 2013 so no need to be sad about the timeline.. I'm still here, sorta! Once the legal stuff ended for me, XH and the D kinda became out of sight, out of mind, so it made it much easier (and I thought about this site a lot less). The dating piece is certainly scary. I didn't have any friends or connections that way to turn to, the vast majority of my colleagues are female or not interested in women, so I tried the whole online thing. The good thing about that is if you meet someone you don't like, it's easy enough to say you're not interested in meeting up again and then you never have to see them... I'm still finding some old issues creep up, but at least now I recognize them and can work at them. I find myself saying "he is NOT XH, so you don't need to expect he's gonna pull the same cr*p as XH" and I find myself having the codependent struggle of pulling away too much vs. being way too overinvolved. Still trying to work on that balance.. always a work in progress.
Last edited by KGirl; 10/15/1501:48 AM.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
I'm still finding some old issues creep up, but at least now I recognize them and can work at them. I find myself saying "he is NOT XH, so you don't need to expect he's gonna pull the same cr*p as XH" and I find myself having the codependent struggle of pulling away too much vs. being way too overinvolved. Still trying to work on that balance.. always a work in progress.