PP's WAW Adventure Continues - (8)

[Vanilla]

Thank you V, that's quite a lot to write out. I'm still sorry your H was the man he was, you deserve so much better.

I do understand the addiction side of my WAW, I truly do. I know she is not trying to punish me in any way and is walking her own path free of me.

PP

PP, I really see that. Thank you for your bravery on this, there will be lurkers and posters who will read your dynamic and a realisation moment may arise.

It has become very clear to me that this can be important.

I also wanted to juxtaposition your posts with my WH to demonstrate the difference that acknowledgement, change, growth serenity and sobriety make to a sitch.

You and WH are miles apart. This is part of my journey and I hope is useful to others. In that way, my sitch offers insight, yours great hope and resolution.

You too deserve much more. We need not be sad or lost because our lives have meaning, it is our spouses who are hurting. I have said before and I say it again, I think your WAW loves you very much and she has her own journey to make. She enabled your dependency and the dynamic of your R has changed for her, she grieves your old M as much as she disliked your distraction with substances. It is a shame she hasn't been exposed to 12 step for her own recovery.

As Cadet says this takes time. You have the gift of time.

You absolutely know V is a fan?

V