Sandi,
Thank you so much. This is perfect. Exactly what I needed to hear. She has already said she hopes our divorce can be amicable and we can have a relationship like she does with her current XH. They are friendly. She considers him one of her closest friends. I have a pretty open friendship with the XH. He has lived with us and I've stayed with him when WW was out of control angry. He says if it wasn't for the boys he wouldn't have anything to do with her and he can't stand her.

Hopefully I get another chance to tell her "we are not going to be buddy buddy. I don't want a buddy who wouldn't fight for our family and chose to leave us."

Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place