Thank you guys, I receved a letter from a L that she had filed for D, I asked her about it she denied she did, the case is clearly filed through the a different countys website. Its been 3 weeks since it was filed but haven't gotten served so I am confused.
Either way, it doesn't matter anylonger, whats done is done, there is no going back. Looking forward not backwards just like W did with me.
We have to be strong, I have faith our Ws will someday see what they have done and most likely it will be too late but who knows. NO EXPECTATIONS< MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE! =)
Got the CC statement and founf too much she has been splurging buying lingere, clothies, etc.
W – Has been having affair for 1 year. W has denied it from Separation date but there is proof in CC statements. The guy is in the military, what can I do?
Keep up the strength. You are doing great, this news will throw anyone off, so make sure you take the time to digest it, don't do anything right now, as there is nothing to do at this moment.
Start taking stock of what was purchased during separation (as you won't be liable for it).
As far as her having an A for 1 year, that is just wrong brother, remember these are her decisions and she will have to live with the consequences and guilt. In regards to the man, what is there to do? confront? Where will that get you? At this point, what's done is done, but it hurts like hell, vent, cry, go to the gym punch something. Have faith that our Lord has something great in store for you my brother.
Please continue to post during this time, as it will help you lots, and I am here to help in anyway I can
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Thank you brother, I'm a mess today. There really isn't anything I can do, I just thank GOD for having removed her from my life as what she has been doing is wrong and the man as well fully aware she was vulnerable and married.
I have not spoke to W since F but hoping to see her this F.
Crazy how I would be really nice and invite her to eat and pray, talk, etc. All the while she was traveling to see OM..
Way before we were separated.
Trying to absorb the whole situation. Tough pill to swallow.
I know this is painful, very painful. It [censored] and I don't know what I would do in the same situation. I would suggest that you sleep on it for a few days in regards to how to move forward. I know that he deserves it, but is that what our Lord would want us to do? Would that make you truly feel better?
I read once that "The best revenge is to be successful" So, why don't we work on being the best we can be, with the live we always dreamed of, and allow them to see what they tried to pass up on....
God bless brother.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Let me ask a difficult question, now that you know who om is, what is it you think your wife like about him? What is she attracted to? If you want to salvage or walk is up to you, but if you want to continue to try, this is good intel.
I am not so sure on this one. I know that married service members who have an affair can, but not sure on single ones.
If he is vindictive, he can take the proof to the OM's command. There should be a link on the base's website.
I know this because my W is active duty and an officer. I know a woman who was the same rank as my W who had an affair (funny how they always think they won't get caught) and got caught. Her H sent the pics, recordings, statements to her command. She was done. Lost her career, half her retirement to him. My friend said she walked out of the hearing (military) looking shell shocked. I mean, she lost it all. So, the H got half the retirement and a sizable sum for support - since he gave up his own career to be married and move with her.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
