Interesting how alike our H's are. The workaholic traits, the drinking, putting his parents on a pedestal, disconnected from kids, the aloofness.
I think you said your H is travelling now? How long is he gone?
Yes. I noticed that as well. Also you mentioned that your husband never really initiated. My husband was similar as well, and did not seem to ever have the drive that I hear others have, although was happy when I initiated. My husband is just happy being alone doing his own thing, or hanging out with friends where they all drink and look at their phones and barely communicate I know for a fact he has undiagnosed ocd (even his mom confirmed). I too am trying to come up with reasons and diagnosis for him. I hate to say it, but I felt better mentally when he left. His behavior was just so selfish and he is just not fun. All he did was stay on a computer, sleep late, and disappear. He tells me there is no other women and that he could never handle that kind of stress and he wants nothing to do with other women and I kind of believe him because he really can't handle a lot, and was never that womanizer personality and he has gained weight, but the signs are there for affair.
Another similarity is I also have a son that has sensory issues, although he is sensory seeking. It's not easy, especially when he gets tired. It's all been left for me to handle and husband just does not get it. The only difference is my in laws really seemed to like me. MIL is super helpful and nice to me and just a good person all around, although I would get annoyed with her bossy nature and there is something socially off about her. She is definatly an enabler but now I understand why.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
