I agree and have been spending a lot of time away and in the master bedroom. I don't see her much but need a voice activated recorder. A CFI would be bad for WW. D4 often says "why is mommy always mad at you?" " Why is mommy always yelling at you" "Let's not talk to mommy" "Don't let mommy in our room"
It breaks my heart.
That is heartbreaking. It's bad enough what us BS's have to deal with, but when it impacts the kids, it's a whole new level of pain. I wouldn't make too many assumptions about whether a CFI would be good or bad for WW. There are a lot of jurisdictions where the mom has a distinct advantage over dad, simply be virtue of being the woman. It's an outdated mode of thinking but there are still people around who believe that mothers should always get primary custody.
Just keep taking care of your daughter the best you can, and protecting her if necessary. I would document everything you can, down to times WW spends with D4, things they do together, any irrational behavior by WW, etc. Also note all the time you spend with D4 and the positive things you are doing with her. It's difficult but sometimes the man does get primary custody. I recently did it myself - 3 minor sons and I get 2 of them 100%. My WW gets my youngest, S8, every other weekend but otherwise he's with me. I had logs going back 6 months showing how often WW was gone and how little time she really spent with her kids. Protect yourself and do what's best for your daughter.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
