Resumed IC today. Goal for today was to discuss what has happened, what I've done/am doing about it, and verify the following:
- that I'm providing leadership for my boys in a positive, loving, and honest way towards both them and my W, and that I avoid anything that could be considered manipulative
- that I'm not doing anything to hinder reconciliation, that I'm keeping the path home clear should she decide she wants to return and build the M we both want
- that I've got healthy and appropriate boundaries established in case she does bring up reconciliation before the D
- that I'm not neglecting my life, my goals, my future
- that I act overall with integrity, strength, character, and good faith
I've decided on an IC every other week through first of December, then decide whether I need to keep going or not based on what's happened, what's happening, and how I've done/am doing.
It's one day at a time...but each day is getting a little better than the previous one. This is the first week in 3 months that I generally have felt light, very little weight on my shoulders, and positive about the present.
