PP's WAW Adventure Continues - (8)

[PigPen]

Photo, thank you for chiming in. So much of our views are subjective of our own communities so I appreciate your perspective. It still surprises me when I meet people who do not drink and do not drink regularly. Just about everyone I know does on the regular and I'm in the fitness world!

As for your H, I would imagine that the stress of knowing BD was coming is a big part of this. I also started drinking every day for about a month pre BD, and it wasn't my B to D! I felt that something was wrong but didn't know what to do about it.

For me, the definition of addiction is when you are using any substance or activity to cover up and/or avoid the reality of a situation. Also in that definition includes using a substance or activity knowing that the results are not what you want but being unable to stop.

I personally was not a big drinker, "every day" meant two or three beers a day at most. But, I needed those two or three. I went out of my way to get them, and wasn't comfortable without them. I also drank them on days when I specifically didn't want to, such as Sunday nights when I had to be up early on Mondays.

There are levels given in addiction especially with alcohol. Many people abuse alcohol when they are going through tough periods, such as a D, a move, a job transition, etc. They may not be alcoholics and once the stress resolves, they naturally stop drinking as much or at all.

There are also people that if they have a drink tomorrow will wake up in a ditch or in a car accident three weeks from now and have no recollection of the time in between. They are addicts in the truest sense of the word. Your H doesn't sound like this. I am not like that.

However your H may be developing a dependency that can lead to more issues down the line. This was the way I was headed so I dropped it all together. Why not use BD as a chance to create a significantly more present life? Hopefully your H gets to this point.

All of the above is my opinion Photo, I'm not an addiction specialist so you may want to reach out to someone that knows better than I.

PP