Kickboxing - W would go anyway to go for run with her friends. I work away a lot - for instance I cant go next week so its not that I go very often. In hindsight I should have gone. At the moment I don't want to meet her friends as I dont know what she has told them so that is always in the back of my mind. I didnt want to eat with her later on.
As regards tea: W wants everything amicable - hence her being over nice and talking a lot, also she asked me had I eaten and what I had eaten (I'm losing weight down to 150 pounds) She's also concerned about my lack of sleep. NB I dont tell her about my weight loss or lack of sleep...she can just sense it.
If I stop the tea it will remind her that things have changed...but do I also stop making her food in the evenings as I sometimes do? Do I stop making her lunch for the next day as well. In other words do I stop doing loving 'acts of service' as the LL book would call them??
She wants me to go but also wants an amicable separation and divorce. When she and the kids joked about my 'messiness' I remember her sometimes vocalising a fantasy world were I lived in a separate house in the same street. Amicable. Amicable Amicable
Its a bit early to go cold. Keeping a few bridges whilst doing 180s on things she complained about 'you dont help with the kids bedtime' 'you dont play with the kids''why dont you take them to a soccer game' is what I am trying to do. I am looking to do other 180s but its difficult because she rarely vocalised complaints and Im not a mind reader! I'm trying to write a list and think of 180s
Its early days and its hard.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
