Sotto sotto voce

[Sotto]

Thanks RD. You are right & it does just wear you down sometimes. I'm mostly pretty good & hopeful things will get even better in time.

So, H emailed today. He wonders if I want to discuss a £ settlement 'before the big legal bills start' now we've exchanged packages. He said last time we discussed this he suggested I take all house proceeds, keeping all else in our names. He said he could offer me a chunk of cash now and just take that amount off the house sale when it sells.

He's happy to talk this through by phone which he says may be easier than email & I can just let him know a good time to call. He understands if I would rather leave it to the legal process if I'm not comfortable.

Where we are up to is we exchanged £ info and he declared an interest in a number of businesses but didn't provide accounts. My L asked for that info a month ago and has chased it since then, but no accounts yet.

The actual money side of these businesses doesn't really make a financial difference to me. I will be more than comfortable with the settlement already offered and I don't want to greedily chase after money. But I guess I just have two issues:

1) In the £ exchange process, you don't get to declare something and not provide evidence of it.
2) I just don't know if he might be storing some funds in these companies and it would be a bit galling to be firstly cheated on and secondly stitched up in our settlement.

But I guess I would be happy to let the accounts go. That said, I would prefer to let things go through normal legal process - but I don't want to seem uncooperative. I know he is nervous about big legal bills as his 'London' L has quoted up to £30k to handle the D (and over £50k if the D were contested.) Eyewatering I know!

I could just reply and say we're waiting on that accounts info and then we can move forward.

But I think the compromise is to say I'll let the L know I'm happy we 'close' the checks process and move towards settlement now.

I just don't want to feel pressured on the phone with him to 'close the deal', so I'm inclined not to schedule a phone call.

Any thoughts??