LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M (2)

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Make sure you don't take the bait when WW tries to suck you into an argument.

I've been pretty good about this. I was talking to my IC about it yesterday. He wanted me to understand snapping back at her was definitely the wrong reaction but to remember how many times she has verbally attacked me and I didn't react. Anger is her go to emotion but the headphones have been helpful.

I've seen several instances where the LBS allows the WAS to do what they want regarding the kids because they don't want to rock the boat and are hopeful for reconciliation. Don't fall into that trap.

Definitely not. I am hopeful for R but not going to give up rights to D4. The only option we've discussed is 50/50 which when I told her I wasn't going to move out I also told her I don't want to only see D4 50% of the time.

Be firm but respectful when it comes to your children and what you believe is best for them. Stay in the house and don't let her bully you or suggest that she may be willing to reconcile if you were to leave the house and allow her some time. It's a trap.

Yeah, I saw right through this trap. She said "if you would have moved out when I first asked you things could be so much better now. I realized how much of do***bag OM was and I hardly even talk to him anymore." TRAP! My thoughts were "oh how wonderful....you hardly even talk to the man you left our home to go and have sex with and when confronted with your A you refused to stop talking to him. You're so wonderful. And you've started another A with at least one OM. You're such a great person. Gosh, I wish I would have moved out....NOT!"
I'm happy I only thought it and didn't say anything.