When the kids play up, I am usually the one who loses his rag first and shouts at them. W doesn’t like it and things I over react. Sometimes I react back at her saying she‘s too lenient.
Last night S11 had lost his phone on a train… cost - about £40. I was Zenlike in responsive and hugged him/comforted him when he cried and told him not to worry. W overreacted and shouted at him. Later she asked me if she overreacted, she felt bad about herself …..a 180 in action…simple but effective.
My primary goal is to connect more with the kids, show them I love them, play with them more, do more fatherly things with them, do more of the bedtime routine – its more of a life goal. Throughout our marriage my relationship with the kids has suffered as I have been too wrapped up thinking about my relationship with W.
This is a 180 and W has noticed. She mentioned it positively during our R talk on Monday and last night thanked me for putting them to bed. I said I enjoyed it. It will continue for my lifetime.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
