Black and white

[Avanti]

I am new to your sitch and so am only just catching up with developments and you've dfinitely been through to some incredibly tough times, I really feel for you.

I do get your black and white thinking, like you I thrive on success and I'm pretty direct.

One thing I don't believe in is war, do you?

If not, why are you taking the approach of going to war? By doing so you might get a few brief moments of self-satisfaction but something will come back and bite you, that's they way things go in any battle, don't try snd tell me you don't know this.

I am not saying lie down and take whatever comes your way, dealing with things as and when they happen from a less confrontational perspective will give you better results, guaranteed. Also having a plan of action, rather than of reaction is the way forward, don't consult your feelings for the way forward, consult your plan.

You've got your kids to consider and they may get caught up in the power struggle for who is right (you or your wife) get embroiled in. Take the what is right road you will feel much better for it and get more of what you want. You can still be black and white but be in a smarter game.