Your such a nice guy for wanting to take them on Halloween. My husband actually is making plans and does not want kids that day even though he is away and missed 2 weekends with them. legally can she alter schedule.?

You Say you see things black and white when it comes to marriage. I agree with your sentiment regarding marriage. ( Personally I never would have left), but I see things as black and white when it comes to infidelity. I feel that while Marriage is a legal binding contract, remaining faithful to someone comes from something deeper and is more honorable. I wish there were legal implications for not honoring your pact of fidelity (think of dangerous diseases you have exposed your spouse to and the financial aspect as well )
It seems there cannot be 2 blacks and whites, as your logic says work on the marriage irregardless.
To me infidelity is the ultimate betrayal and I would not look past it. People can show me all the studies of brain changes and point out how rejected he felt and I don't care. I wouldnt behave like that, and I won't tolerate less. So yeah, I get your black and white position. I don't think it's being stubborn, I think it's a fair and rational approach in a very irrational and cruel world (but then again I'm a pessimistic idealist : ) )

It's hard being a Cassandra. I think one day our spouses will definatly regret this once they see that we have moved on. They just lack something within themselves that we seem to have and I'm not just saying this because we are the ones left behind.

Last edited by JulieH; 10/14/15 09:29 AM.
Me: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
Physically Separated 7/2015